Quarter Life Crisis - Averted
Quarter Life Crisis - a crisis that may be experienced in one's twenties, involving anxiety over the direction and quality of one's life.
Not gonna lie, I was in the middle of a full blown quarter life crisis 3 years ago. I'd graduated from University in London a year before, I'd moved to New York City where I barely knew anyone and I was bartending 6 days a week so that I could just barely afford the corner of a living room in a Manhattan apartment (seriously, I just put up a couple of bookshelves to block off part of the living room and that was my 'room').
I didn't really know what I wanted to do with my life and I felt like if I didn't figure it out soon I'd find myself in a job I hated for years. All I knew was that I loved to travel and that I wanted to help people. I was also convinced that I had absolutely no skills. It's as if a lifetime of memories and accomplishments can disappear in front of your eyes as you're staring at a blank resume. I was lost.
Then I went on a trip that totally changed my life. I joined Louis, Will, Nick and Ange on a road trip across the U.S. and for the first time, I was surrounded by young people who were on their own journeys. They weren't following the path that we're all taught leads to success. They weren't in office jobs working late in an effort to get a promotion. They were starting businesses and doing things that had absolutely no guarantee of success (in fact, quite a huge chance of failure) and they were free.
That wonderful group of people inspired me in ways they may not even know. They showed me that there is not just one definition of success, and living an accomplished life means different things to different people. They showed me the way off the 'conveyer belt' and on to a road of completely open possibilities.
Now, almost three years later, I can safely say that I have successfully averted my quarter life crisis. I've found the freedom in being lost and I've found comfort in not having any idea where I'll be or what I'll be doing a year from now. This gives me confidence to pursue any dreams I may have (including starting a jewelry line!) and be open to opportunities and possibilities I don't know are coming. If you find yourself stuck in the place I was in 3 years ago - try to give yourself some breathing room to create your dream life. Don't follow what you've been taught you should be doing and listen to what makes your heart beat loudest. Follow that and be open to whatever may come your way.
Check out the two videos below for more specific explanations as to how I freed myself from my quarter life crisis!